Inside every people-pleaser is a little child who never felt worthy of love and was afraid of being rejected and abandoned by his/ her loved ones. Being good and nice and striving for approval is a way to try to suppress that fear. And as they grow, people pleasers try to avoid conflict and others’ anger at all costs and will do anything to defuse a confrontation or argument. Furthermore, people-pleasers judge themselves very harshly and often set themselves unrealistic expectations. They feel they need to be perfect in order to be accepted or loved. They feel they cannot make mistakes or risk upsetting or disappointing people.And, finally people-pleasers need to be needed. It’s their automatic response to help others and try to make others happy, and they very often take other people’s actions, behavior and emotions personally, believing they’re responsible for making others feel better.Today, set your intentions to become aware of how you put other people's well being and happiness before your own. Instead of looking for validation from other people and the outside world, today begin to turn your attention inwards-towards loving yourself. Self-love is essential. It isn’t selfish to think about what you want and need. It isn’t selfish to make decisions about your life based on what you want and need rather than to merely please others. Today, let go of your need to please everyone, over your own needs. You owe it to yourself to put your people-pleasing ways behind you. You owe it to yourself to take care of you first, because that is the only real way you can truly help other people. Today, know you are worthy and deserving of your own love.

Just for today, I am willing to release the need to feel unworthy. I am worthy of the very best in life and I now lovingly allow myself to accept it. I know that the greatest gift that I can give myself is unconditional love. I love and accept myself exactly as I am. My needs are just as important as everyone else's. I honor my needs by putting them first in my life. I am safe. It is only change. And all is truly well in my world. And so it is