The definition of codependency is sacrificing one’s personal needs to try to meet the needs of others. And, someone who is codependent has an extreme focus outside themselves. Their thoughts and actions revolve around other people, such as spouses, relatives or co-workers and their relationships are unbalanced and unhealthy. A person with codependency often tries to save others from themselves. Any of this behavior sound familiar? Today, is the day that you wake up and begin to change yourself, your relationships and your need to fix everyone and everything around you. And it all begins with the relationship you have with yourself. The cycle of codependency can only be overcome by establishing and nurturing a loving relationship with yourself. Otherwise, you will continually find yourself in unhealthy, codependent relationships. Next recognize that no matter how strong or together you envision yourself, you can’t control or fix others, and it is not your job to do so. And you cannot make anyone's life better-it is not your job to do so. Next, you will need to begin to establish healthy boundaries-to stop saying yes when you mean no. In the end, we are responsible for ourselves and our own happiness. What we create in ourselves we can later give to others. In this world, loving yourself will not only make you stronger, but also the people around you. Today, let the grown up people in your life take care of themselves and you take care of you-you deserve it!

Just for today, I recognize that I cannot learn other people lessons for them. They must do their own work and they will do it when they are ready. I say no when I mean no and yes when I mean yes. I know what I want and I do not have to apologize for it. I am a master at setting boundaries in my life that protect my time, energy, creativity and well being. I am safe and everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.