Shame

Shame, we all have it, and yet no one likes to talk about!  However, it only gets worse when it remains hidden away. So, today it is time to shine a light upon your shame.

Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing you are flawed and therefore unworthy of love, belonging, and connection. At its core, shame is rooted in our universal need and desire to be loved. And the truth is, we all carry shame within us. The only people who don’t experience shame are those who lack the capacity for empathy and human connection. And despite shame being a universal emotion, most of us are afraid to talk about it. Sometimes we can feel shame when we say the word “shame.” But the less we talk about it, the more control it has over us.

Today, begin to shine a light upon your shame and expose it for what it is- fear! Today, you can start to rewire your shame filter with new experiences of self-empathy and self-compassion. Today,  understand that you did your best in any situation, and shower yourself with love and compassion, for those situations that you may have just fell apart or generally "screwed" up. It’s scary bringing shame to light, but the minute you allow yourself to do so,   you will step into newfound freedom. The minute you shine a light upon what you feel most shameful about is the moment you begin to heal! Today, accept that you do not need to be fixed. Accept that you deserve love, belonging, and connection. We all do; no matter what has happened in the past, no matter what the future holds. Right now, you deserve and are worthy of love, belonging, and connection. Today, accept your flaws, mistakes, and missteps, forgive yourself, and acknowledge that you deserve all that is good in this life just because you exist. 

Just for today, I release the need to judge or criticize myself.  I am doing the best I can with the knowledge, understanding, and awareness that I have right now. I forgive myself for all past perceived wrongs. I am now free to love myself exactly as I am. I release all shame from the past. I am willing to release it and live in this moment. Life supports me in every way and out of this situation only good will come. And so it is.

Let it all just be..

Life can be hard, and it can be so easy to get yourself so stressed out that you forget the entire point, which is to live it, not to suffer through it. And before you know it, it's almost over, and you begin to wonder why you wasted so much time worrying, wondering, and fearing the unknown. You awaken to how insignificant other people's opinions are and how your opinion of yourself is the only one that matters in the end.

Today, consciously rise above what has been stressing you out and accept that it will end. Today,  look for new ways to live and enjoy the life you have been given. Today, consciously let people be who they are and allow yourself to be exactly who you are without criticism, judgment, or comparison. Today, set your intentions to let go of the need to know what comes next. Let go of all your disappointment, anger, and the hurt you continue to hold onto. Today, know that if you worry about what might be, and wonder what might have been, you will ignore what is, and that is, in truth, the only real thing. Today, stay present it is where you will find peace and your truth.

Just for today, I acknowledge that other people's opinions mean nothing. My opinion of myself is the only one that counts. It does not matter what other people say or do. What does matter is how I choose to react and what I choose to believe about myself. I now choose to live in a new way, and everything works out for my highest good. And so it is. 

Victim, no more

Today, we are being called to step up and take responsibility for our actions. No more playing the victim or trying to pass blame; today, we must own up to all we have created and take charge in a positive direction. Today,  set your intentions to take ownership of what you can and allow the rest to unfold. There may be some harsh lessons, but don’t forget, when we embrace the lessons, no matter how harsh they may seem,  we can very quickly find ourselves reaching a new level of mastery and accomplishment. We are being pushed beyond our comfort zones so that we may climb higher and move beyond where we are right now.

Today, let go of your need to struggle, suffer, or be a victim. Stop and recognize how truly powerful you are to create the life you desire. Reclaim that power. Let people be who they are and you be you.

Just for today, I am willing to see the lesson in every experience. I release the need to struggle or suffer. I am a powerful person and I have the power to change my life. I am safe even in the midst of change. And so it is.

Worthiness

How is it that so many of us believe our worth is conditional? We learn as we grow up to associate self-worth with achievement. Furthermore, our culture does not reward those who are happy just to be. Instead, we must keep laboring away until we can do something well. Even then, some types of work are highly valued over others, so we have to find the right job to do to get by. Today, it is time to recognize that you are worthy just because you exist. It is time to realize that external validation will never make you content. It only keeps you hungry for more. In truth, your worth cannot be assigned a value. It simply is. Because you are alive, you are just as worthy as anyone who has lived before, is living now, or will live after. In truth, we all come into the world the same and leave the same way. Our lives may differ widely in content but not in value. None of us start deficient in worth. We need not go on a lifelong journey to earn our worth by moving up in the world. Our worth remains steadfast regardless of how our lives take shape. Work does not shape your worth. No matter how you decide to share your skills and talents, the world will be better off, even if you alone trust the value in what you do and who you are. Today, create some time to integrate this knowledge that you are worthy just because you exist.  Learning more about your inherent worth means unlearning life's harsh, ingrained principles as you have come to know them.  Today, set your intentions to stop seeking achievement and improvement and choose to be content with who you are right now.  Today, accept that you alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone.  Just for today, I accept that I am worthy because I exist. And so it is.

Only trust your intuition

We are living in a time that it can be difficult to know what is true and what is illusion. It can be difficult to know what is real and what has been “made up” by others for their own purposes. It can be difficult to know who to trust. However, your intuition is the one source that you can always trust. It is always speaking to you and it always knows what is true for you. But, you like many of us, you may not trust it and thus do not heed its warnings.Furthermore, it can be really difficult to hear your intuition if you are drowning in fear. So today, create some time to really listen to what your intuition is telling you because it is your truth. Pay attention to the inner nudges that you have been receiving because they are guiding you on your soul's journey. If your intuition is guiding you toward change, take some time to see where you might be resisting that change. Even though change is scary, it is necessary. Today, take notice of where you've been rationalizing to keep yourself "safe". Instead of talking yourself out of change, perhaps you can explore your possibilities. See what's out there. Today, do not seek outside advice because only you know your truth and what you need in every moment. Today begin to trust yourself and your intuition because you know a lot more than you think.

Just for today, I trust my intuition. I am willing to listen to the small still voice inside of me and when I do, I hear all the answers to all the questions I shall ever ask. All that I ever need to know is revealed to me. My intuition is always on my side. I surrender to what is. I let go of what was and I have faith in what will be. Everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is

A complete reset

We are in the Year of the Snake, during which our souls are asked to let go of our identities that have served us our entire lives. In truth, we are being asked to shed old skins – stories, roles, patterns – so that something new can take form. However, those old identities may not be released immediately, and you may question where you will go next. Although this process may be "crazy" making, it creates space for something more honest and fulfilling to take its place. Therefore, you might feel uncertain, confused, and downright exhausted. But you don’t have to see precisely what’s next to move forward. You do need to claim your space and intention to change. So, today, set your intentions to create some time to get honest with yourself about what’s not working and act on what your soul is asking for. You are being called to put yourself first - not as an act of selfishness but as a commitment to your growth. Today, begin to honor you and your energy. Today, say no when something drains you and yes when something lights you up. Today, consciously honor the parts of you that are ready for more and ready to change. This kind of change is not for the faint hearted. Instead, it requires clarity, strength, and resilience, especially when so much is changing, inside and out. Today, let go of what and who you've been hanging onto for safety, security, and familiarity. If you do not make the changes yourself, the Universe will do it for you, which is always much more painful. So today, choose to use the energies to let go and to allow the new to enter your life. 

Just for today, I am willing to let go. And so it is.

Stop trying to fit in!!

Although most of us have felt the need to fit in, that need can become so overwhelming that we lose ourselves, our integrity, and our identity. We humans want to find a place with people we feel at home with and to which we belong. Furthermore, fitting in is about trying to adapt to a world that’s not your own. You don’t belong there, even if that is all you want to do, and you have tried hard to become a part of it. Belonging, on the other hand, is about inhabiting the world as the real you. And the hard reality is that you’ll never fit in where you don’t belong, no matter how you contort yourself or whose ass you kiss. Fitting in makes you lose yourself to please the crowd. It means putting everyone else before you. Conversely, belonging means that you matter just as much as anybody else does. You finally feel at home only when you know that you count enough to come first. However, it is much easier to fit in and become a part of the crowd than having the courage to walk away. Today, set your intentions no matter what the “crowd” does or thinks; set your intentions to muster up the courage to be yourself and to know that you are enough just as you are, even if you don’t fit in. Today, know that you deserve to be seen and respected as you are, even if it means you don’t fit in. You deserve to be heard. You deserve to be known for the real deal that you are. Today, set your intentions to stop taking the easy way out and continuing the loop of working so hard to fit in. Today, consciously stop trying to fit in. Today accept that the best place in life is where you’re already okay, where you are accepted for your authentic self. Today, come home to you. It’s where you belong.

Just for today, I choose to be happy no matter what other people say, do or think. It does not matter what other people do or say. What does matter is how I choose to react and what I choose to believe about myself. I am far more than other people's opinions. My opinion of myself is the only one that counts. I have the courage to be myself. I am safe. It is only change and Life supports me in every possible way. And so it is.

Freedom!

On this day, when the entire country celebrates a day of freedom and independence, you can experience the true meaning of freedom. You can accept that freedom doesn’t come from a situation or “from” anything at all but is within you right now. And, in truth, you are always free to interpret any situation differently.  You are free to dictate your own life and are free to choose thoughts that work for you and can liberate you from your own limiting self-made constructs. You have the freedom to decide what you do with the information you are given, how you interpret your life, how you dictate your future, what you believe about yourself, and what decisions you make.  All of it is a choice. Your choice. And in choosing, you will find true freedom. Happy Fourth of July!

Just for today, I give myself freedom from the past and move with joy into the now. I move beyond forgiveness to understanding, and I have compassion for all. I now free myself from all destructive fears and doubts. I release all guilt and emotional hurt, and I am free. All is truly well in my world and so it is.

Sometimes you just need a good cry!

Sometimes, the only thing you can do is to have a good cry, even if you have tried to hold it all together. But, most of us are taught that crying is a sign of weakness, and we, therefore, keep in our emotions and feelings, avoiding tears at any cost. Today, as we end another month, allow yourself to feel all your feelings. Accept that this life is all about releasing and letting go, which can be painful yet necessary. Furthermore, our tears can come from stress or from sorrow. But they genuinely lessen the pain and help to make you look to tomorrow. Whether your tears come from pain or frustration, they alert you to the need to stop and regain your balance. But know that you will get up again. You always have, and you always will. Today, accept that it is okay to cry. It is OK to share your tears with others. And it’s OK to do whatever you need to do for you. Today accept that some days life is just hard. And some days are just rough. And some days, you gotta cry before you move forward. And all of that is okay.

Just for today, I listen to my feelings and I am gentle with myself. I know that all my feelings are my friends. I am safe when I feel and express my feelings. I can remain serene in all situations. I focus my attention on loving myself and trusting in the Universe. All is truly well in my world and everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Ghosted?

In this age of technology, many of us find ourselves being ghosted, whether it is from romantic relationships, friendships, or prospective employers. How we communicate has become incredibly impersonal yet so much easier for humans who intrinsically hate conflict. We take for granted how much technology has changed how we interact with people. We now have substituted face-to-face communication and connecting with social media like buttons or emojis to communicate how we feel. Efficiency and avoidance reign supreme in this age of technology, and it has made it so easy to disregard anything and everything; common courtesy has now become painfully underutilized. Real face-to-face interactions are a thing of the past.  And out of the lack of connection and honest communication comes the now commonly used way of showing our displeasure by ghosting people.  So, it is our challenge to learn new ways of coping with ghosting.  They begin with recognizing that when someone ghosts you, it says nothing about you or your worthiness for love and everything about the person doing the ghosting. It shows they don’t have the courage to deal with the discomfort of their emotions or yours. Either they don’t understand the impact of their behavior or, worse, they don’t care. Remembering that it has nothing to do with you will take the sting out of being ignored and ghosted.  In truth, you may find yourself ghosting other people for various reasons.  In those cases, examining why you choose the “easy” way out and what that says about you and your integrity and self-respect is just as important.  Today, rise above those who choose to ghost you.  Do not try to figure out why or fix what’s happening.  Today, remember that no response is a response, and decide to love yourself enough to walk away and move on.  Shower yourself with compassion, be your own best friend, allow yourself to grieve, and then decide to let go and allow new people to enter your life.

Just for today, I am my own best friend. Other friends may come and go but I am always here with me and for me.  I support myself in feeling good. I am willing to change and everything is working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Regret will get you nowhere!

Today, the Universe wants to remind you that you have limited time on this earth, so do not waste your precious time in regret. It wants you and I to stop wasting our limited time and energy fighting things we cannot change. Today, consciously stop wasting your time regretting your past. Maybe you took a leap of faith, but it didn’t work out as you wanted. Or perhaps you didn’t take that leap of faith.  Either way, regret wastes your time.  So, today, instead of using your limited amount of time and energy regretting, use it to show yourself some compassion and shower yourself with self-care. Use your energy to find a new purpose and way of being. Today, accept that it’s never too late to experience things and learn from your past. However,  regret won’t get you there. But realization will. 

 Just for today, I love and approve of myself exactly as I am.  I forgive myself for not being perfect.  I am living the best way I know how.  I forgive myself and set myself free. I let go of what was and have faith in what will be. And so it is.

Shame😟

Shame. Everybody has it. Nobody wants to talk about it. However, the less we talk about it, the more power it has over us. Moreover, shame goes to the core of our being and can make us feel as if there is something inherently wrong with us and that we are just not good enough. And, when you are in shame, you cannot see the bigger picture. You feel alone, exposed, profoundly flawed, and want to isolate or hide. Today, it is time to shine a light on your shame-on the things you have done or been that you continue to hold onto and hide from the world-and, then let them go. Today, you can begin to rewire your shame filter with new experiences of self-empathy and self-compassion. Today,  understand that you did the best you could in any given situation, and then shower yourself with love and compassion. It’s scary bringing shame to light, but the minute you allow yourself to do so,   you will step into newfound freedom, you will learn who you are outside of the identities everyone else has given you,  and you will become fully yourself. And, when you shine a light on your shame and then let it go, you will see the worthy, deserving, more-than-enough person that you are and have always been. Today, let go of the shame it’s only holding you back, and you deserve so much more!

Just for today, I release the need to judge or criticize myself.  I am doing the best I can with the knowledge, understanding, and awareness that I have right now. I forgive myself for all past perceived wrongs. I am now free to love myself exactly as I am. I release all shame from the past. I am willing to release it and live in this moment. Life supports me in every way, and out of this situation, only good will come. And so it is.

Soul Healing Happening🌚

Today,  Mercury and Chiron align in the fiery sign of Aries, inviting you to tend to your deepest wounds, especially as they relate to your identity. Chiron, the "Wounded Healer," illuminates the deepest, often most painful parts of our psyche, not as a curse but as a catalyst for growth and healing. In Aries, those wounds relate to your sense of self—how you assert your independence, face rejection, and deal with feelings of abandonment. These wounds can shake the very foundation of your identity and worth. Yet, it is through these trials that Chiron in Aries offers you a path toward empowerment. Today, allow this conjunction to remind you that the path to healing is not about erasing your scars but understanding their meaning and turning them into symbols of your resilience and courage. Allow today’s healing energies to help you understand that your wounds do not define you; they refine you, preparing you for a journey filled with greater confidence and self-assurance. From a soul's perspective, these challenging moments often foster immense growth. Today, allow yourself to be healed!

Just for today, I affirm that I have the power to heal myself. I know that healing happens when I get my mind out of the way and allow the intelligence of my body and my soul to do their healing naturally. I know that healing means making whole and accepting all parts of myself, not just the parts I like. I know that all the answers that I seek are already within me. I trust my inner wisdom. My intuition is always on my side and everything always is working out for my highest good. And so it is.