Stop trying to fit in!!

Although most of us have felt the need to fit in, that need can become so overwhelming that we lose ourselves, our integrity, and our identity. We humans want to find a place with people we feel at home with and to which we belong. Furthermore, fitting in is about trying to adapt to a world that’s not your own. You don’t belong there, even if that is all you want to do, and you have tried hard to become a part of it. Belonging, on the other hand, is about inhabiting the world as the real you. And the hard reality is that you’ll never fit in where you don’t belong, no matter how you contort yourself or whose ass you kiss. Fitting in makes you lose yourself to please the crowd. It means putting everyone else before you. Conversely, belonging means that you matter just as much as anybody else does. You finally feel at home only when you know that you count enough to come first. However, it is much easier to fit in and become a part of the crowd than having the courage to walk away. Today, set your intentions no matter what the “crowd” does or thinks; set your intentions to muster up the courage to be yourself and to know that you are enough just as you are, even if you don’t fit in. Today, know that you deserve to be seen and respected as you are, even if it means you don’t fit in. You deserve to be heard. You deserve to be known for the real deal that you are. Today, set your intentions to stop taking the easy way out and continuing the loop of working so hard to fit in. Today, consciously stop trying to fit in. Today accept that the best place in life is where you’re already okay, where you are accepted for your authentic self. Today, come home to you. It’s where you belong.

Just for today, I choose to be happy no matter what other people say, do or think. It does not matter what other people do or say. What does matter is how I choose to react and what I choose to believe about myself. I am far more than other people's opinions. My opinion of myself is the only one that counts. I have the courage to be myself. I am safe. It is only change and Life supports me in every possible way. And so it is.

Freedom!

On this day, when the entire country celebrates a day of freedom and independence, you can experience the true meaning of freedom. You can accept that freedom doesn’t come from a situation or “from” anything at all but is within you right now. And, in truth, you are always free to interpret any situation differently.  You are free to dictate your own life and are free to choose thoughts that work for you and can liberate you from your own limiting self-made constructs. You have the freedom to decide what you do with the information you are given, how you interpret your life, how you dictate your future, what you believe about yourself, and what decisions you make.  All of it is a choice. Your choice. And in choosing, you will find true freedom. Happy Fourth of July!

Just for today, I give myself freedom from the past and move with joy into the now. I move beyond forgiveness to understanding, and I have compassion for all. I now free myself from all destructive fears and doubts. I release all guilt and emotional hurt, and I am free. All is truly well in my world and so it is.

Sometimes you just need a good cry!

Sometimes, the only thing you can do is to have a good cry, even if you have tried to hold it all together. But, most of us are taught that crying is a sign of weakness, and we, therefore, keep in our emotions and feelings, avoiding tears at any cost. Today, as we end another month, allow yourself to feel all your feelings. Accept that this life is all about releasing and letting go, which can be painful yet necessary. Furthermore, our tears can come from stress or from sorrow. But they genuinely lessen the pain and help to make you look to tomorrow. Whether your tears come from pain or frustration, they alert you to the need to stop and regain your balance. But know that you will get up again. You always have, and you always will. Today, accept that it is okay to cry. It is OK to share your tears with others. And it’s OK to do whatever you need to do for you. Today accept that some days life is just hard. And some days are just rough. And some days, you gotta cry before you move forward. And all of that is okay.

Just for today, I listen to my feelings and I am gentle with myself. I know that all my feelings are my friends. I am safe when I feel and express my feelings. I can remain serene in all situations. I focus my attention on loving myself and trusting in the Universe. All is truly well in my world and everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Ghosted?

In this age of technology, many of us find ourselves being ghosted, whether it is from romantic relationships, friendships, or prospective employers. How we communicate has become incredibly impersonal yet so much easier for humans who intrinsically hate conflict. We take for granted how much technology has changed how we interact with people. We now have substituted face-to-face communication and connecting with social media like buttons or emojis to communicate how we feel. Efficiency and avoidance reign supreme in this age of technology, and it has made it so easy to disregard anything and everything; common courtesy has now become painfully underutilized. Real face-to-face interactions are a thing of the past.  And out of the lack of connection and honest communication comes the now commonly used way of showing our displeasure by ghosting people.  So, it is our challenge to learn new ways of coping with ghosting.  They begin with recognizing that when someone ghosts you, it says nothing about you or your worthiness for love and everything about the person doing the ghosting. It shows they don’t have the courage to deal with the discomfort of their emotions or yours. Either they don’t understand the impact of their behavior or, worse, they don’t care. Remembering that it has nothing to do with you will take the sting out of being ignored and ghosted.  In truth, you may find yourself ghosting other people for various reasons.  In those cases, examining why you choose the “easy” way out and what that says about you and your integrity and self-respect is just as important.  Today, rise above those who choose to ghost you.  Do not try to figure out why or fix what’s happening.  Today, remember that no response is a response, and decide to love yourself enough to walk away and move on.  Shower yourself with compassion, be your own best friend, allow yourself to grieve, and then decide to let go and allow new people to enter your life.

Just for today, I am my own best friend. Other friends may come and go but I am always here with me and for me.  I support myself in feeling good. I am willing to change and everything is working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Regret will get you nowhere!

Today, the Universe wants to remind you that you have limited time on this earth, so do not waste your precious time in regret. It wants you and I to stop wasting our limited time and energy fighting things we cannot change. Today, consciously stop wasting your time regretting your past. Maybe you took a leap of faith, but it didn’t work out as you wanted. Or perhaps you didn’t take that leap of faith.  Either way, regret wastes your time.  So, today, instead of using your limited amount of time and energy regretting, use it to show yourself some compassion and shower yourself with self-care. Use your energy to find a new purpose and way of being. Today, accept that it’s never too late to experience things and learn from your past. However,  regret won’t get you there. But realization will. 

 Just for today, I love and approve of myself exactly as I am.  I forgive myself for not being perfect.  I am living the best way I know how.  I forgive myself and set myself free. I let go of what was and have faith in what will be. And so it is.

Shame😟

Shame. Everybody has it. Nobody wants to talk about it. However, the less we talk about it, the more power it has over us. Moreover, shame goes to the core of our being and can make us feel as if there is something inherently wrong with us and that we are just not good enough. And, when you are in shame, you cannot see the bigger picture. You feel alone, exposed, profoundly flawed, and want to isolate or hide. Today, it is time to shine a light on your shame-on the things you have done or been that you continue to hold onto and hide from the world-and, then let them go. Today, you can begin to rewire your shame filter with new experiences of self-empathy and self-compassion. Today,  understand that you did the best you could in any given situation, and then shower yourself with love and compassion. It’s scary bringing shame to light, but the minute you allow yourself to do so,   you will step into newfound freedom, you will learn who you are outside of the identities everyone else has given you,  and you will become fully yourself. And, when you shine a light on your shame and then let it go, you will see the worthy, deserving, more-than-enough person that you are and have always been. Today, let go of the shame it’s only holding you back, and you deserve so much more!

Just for today, I release the need to judge or criticize myself.  I am doing the best I can with the knowledge, understanding, and awareness that I have right now. I forgive myself for all past perceived wrongs. I am now free to love myself exactly as I am. I release all shame from the past. I am willing to release it and live in this moment. Life supports me in every way, and out of this situation, only good will come. And so it is.

Soul Healing Happening🌚

Today,  Mercury and Chiron align in the fiery sign of Aries, inviting you to tend to your deepest wounds, especially as they relate to your identity. Chiron, the "Wounded Healer," illuminates the deepest, often most painful parts of our psyche, not as a curse but as a catalyst for growth and healing. In Aries, those wounds relate to your sense of self—how you assert your independence, face rejection, and deal with feelings of abandonment. These wounds can shake the very foundation of your identity and worth. Yet, it is through these trials that Chiron in Aries offers you a path toward empowerment. Today, allow this conjunction to remind you that the path to healing is not about erasing your scars but understanding their meaning and turning them into symbols of your resilience and courage. Allow today’s healing energies to help you understand that your wounds do not define you; they refine you, preparing you for a journey filled with greater confidence and self-assurance. From a soul's perspective, these challenging moments often foster immense growth. Today, allow yourself to be healed!

Just for today, I affirm that I have the power to heal myself. I know that healing happens when I get my mind out of the way and allow the intelligence of my body and my soul to do their healing naturally. I know that healing means making whole and accepting all parts of myself, not just the parts I like. I know that all the answers that I seek are already within me. I trust my inner wisdom. My intuition is always on my side and everything always is working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Happy St Patty’s Day🍀

Happy St. Patty’s Day! A day that is said to bring luck to us all!  However, luck, in reality,  is an illusion. Although we cannot control everything that happens, we can break the habit of attributing things to luck. We can instead embrace our ability to make positive changes for our futures. By dismissing the illusion of luck and embracing our ability to change our lives for the better, we become empowered to then make our own luck. We then all become lucky. Luck is far from a mystical power out of our control or something that can be stored in amulets or charms; luck comes from deep within ourselves. It is something we can create with nothing more than a shift in our perspective, a realignment of our attitudes. Today, embrace this new outlook with an open heart and a positive attitude, free of the negativity and powerlessness associated with the cycle of luck. Challenges are unavoidable in life, but when you consider yourself the creator of your own luck, you set yourself up for success and happiness. Today, make the change and remember: the grass is always greener where you water it. Today, set your intentions, create your own luck, and then get lucky!

Just for today, I am always creating my own luck! I recognize that Life is very simple. I create my experiences with my thinking and feeling patterns. And, what I believe about myself and my life becomes true for me. I choose to believe that I am an unlimited being, receiving from an unlimited source in an unlimited way. I am blessed beyond my fondest dreams, and I am grateful for all my blessings. And so it is.🍀

Creativity

Creativity is not a luxury item, even if we’re taught to give more power to our thinking and reasoning skills.  In truth, every one of us is creative in our own ways, even if we’re not “artistic” or musical.  In fact, we all create everything and everyone in our lives.  Furthermore, creativity, in whatever form we desire, helps us become who we are. And in truth, creativity allows us to be seen, expressed, and healed.  When we are expressed, we become who we truly are. When we are healed, we become better versions of ourselves. When we are seen, our truth and goodness shine in the world. And when we express, heal, and shine, we help others to do the same. Today, set your intentions to allow yourself to be seen by expressing what’s in your heart and then allow yourself to be healed. Today, choose to create the life you desire.

Just for today, I am always in touch with my creative source. I recognize that the key to creativity is knowing that my thinking creates my experience. I use this key in every area of my life. I release all resistance to fully expressing my creativity and lovingly create the life I desire. Everything is working out for my highest good. And so it is.

New Super Moon in ♓️

We have a Super New Moon in Pisces, the last sign in the astrological calendar!  New Moons represent the start of a new cycle, leading us into the fresh energies of the astrological new year and the transformative energies of Eclipse season, both of which follow this New Moon. In fact, this Super New Moon is a reset for our souls. It is a chance to dream, a chance to set intentions, and to visualize what it is that we would like to create moving forward. And the energy of this New Moon is about flowing with what comes up and trusting our inner wisdom. This energy doesn’t want us to get wrapped up in our minds with all the details; it wants us to listen to our hearts, to trust, to flow, and to be ok with not knowing the way. This type of surrender, this level of trust, does not come easy, but the New Moon is asking us to ride this wave. If you are going through a challenging time, try to avoid controlling or planning and instead get into your body. Feel your way through the situation and be ok with taking each step as it comes. Today, create quiet time to reflect on what feels right for your soul. Stop yourself from thinking your way into a new master plan and just flow with what is happening right now. Today, surrender, trust, and allow yourself to be divinely guided on the next steps of your journey. Today, use the New Moon energy to help you take it one day at a time, one moment at a time, and to just be present with what is.

Just for today, I surrender to what is. I let go of what was, and I have faith in what will be.  I now trust the power that created me to protect, guide me, and love me at all times and under all circumstances. I am at peace with the process of life. And everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Full moon in Virgo

We have a beautiful Full Moon in the sign of Virgo, and it is a reminder to us that significant changes are the result of small, consistent actions.⁠⁠ With Virgo, it's the little things. For you see, Virgo teaches you the art of discernment and healthy habits. So, under this Full Moon, you will be given the energy to support the fine-tuning of what nourishes you and what needs to be released.⁠⁠ Today, use the Full Moon energy to begin to trust your instincts and allow them to guide you on what and with whom you need to let go, making space for new people, places, things, and habits to enter your life.  Today, create some time to consider if your attachments to people or situations stem from a sense of duty or obligation rather than a genuine connection.⁠ Today, acknowledge and accept that you were not intended to live a life of sacrifice.  In truth,  to serve others, self-care must be your priority. Today, commit to caring for your body and enhancing your connection with your spiritual self.  Under the light of this Full Moon, let go of the fear of putting yourself firs, so you can enjoy the blessings of your life. 

Just for today, I am willing to let go. I release all negative thoughts about the past and all worries about the future. I practice forgiveness daily to move out of the past and into the present moment. I let go of all expectations, knowing that Life will always care for me. I let go of everything that is not love. I am safe, and out of this situation, only good will come. And so it is.

Endings and new beginnings

Today, we enter Pisces season. As the last sign of the zodiac, Pisces Season is a time of culmination and closure. It is a time to wrap up the energies of the previous 12 months and prepare for new people, places, and things to enter our lives. Today, as we end this astrological year, make time for reflection and to see how far you have come and where you remain stuck and mired in conflict and struggle. As you begin to recognize how much you have grown and changed, you may also want to finally be able to let go of all the people, places, things, beliefs, and habits that truly no longer serve any purpose in your life, even if they bring you a false sense of security. Remember, new beginnings are often disguised as painful endings. So, today, allow yourself to let go, trust, and make room for the new to fill the empty space created by letting go of what no longer serves you.  

Just for today, I am open to the magic and mystery that this new beginning brings. I listen to my feelings, and I am gentle with myself. I know that all my feelings are my friends, not just the ones I like. I embrace change and willingly let go of everything that does not serve any purpose in my life. I begin and end each day with gratitude and joy. Everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Presence

Changing a lifetime of mental habits is an ongoing process, not a one-time quick fix because in truth our brains are built to reinforce behavior that feels safe and comfortable, even when that behavior hurts us more than helps us. And, although there truly is no quick fix for those mental habits, there is one place that can free you from the prison of your habits and that is by remaining in this present moment. For you see by living deeply in the present moment you will be able to understand the past better and you will be able to prepare for a better future. Today, acknowledge that this present moment holds your power to a better day and a better future. Today, accept that your past is done and the pain and suffering were only intended to teach you lessons about your life and about yourself. It is only in this present moment and every present moment of this day will you be able to experience the happiness and peace that you have been seeking. Today, set your intentions to remain fully present-fully immersed in this present moment. Today, consciously stay in the present moment and recognize that your thoughts aren't always reality. Consciously stop yourself from creating what-ifs and imagined scenarios. Although all your imagined scenarios may seem real, you must consciously recognize that they are not in the present moment and may never become real. Today, remember there is only one time that is important and it is now! The present moment is the only time when we have any power. Today, choose to live in this present moment!