Boundaries are an essential part of self-care. They are healthy, normal, and necessary. And, they are something that most of us struggle with creating and maintaining in our relationships. In fact boundaries aren't about another person, but about ourselves because they help us to recognize our own needs. They show us it is perfectly acceptable to have needs and to take care of them. Always! On the other hand, not having healthy boundaries allows you to deny your needs through focusing on everyone's needs, through numbing behavior, such as: people pleasing, addiction, overworking, overspending, over drinking, procrastination, and unhealthy relationships. Whatever your personal preference, all of those behaviors allow you to disconnect from who you really are and how you really feel. The more you deny your needs, the louder they shout to try and get your attention through your resentments, so you have to keep numbing or rationalizing them away to quiet them down, and that’s no way to live. Today, is the day that you begin to become conscious of how and where you have the responsibility to set better boundaries in your life. You must establish boundaries to promote and protect your self-care, self-worth, and self-love. It is only from that place that you can truly take care of yourself, which in turn allows you to truly be there for others. Creating healthy boundaries means that you take responsibility for yourself, your time, your feelings, and your energy instead of allowing yourself to be battered around by everyone else’s needs. Boundaries allow you to take control of you rather than allowing others to control you. Today, recognize that boundaries are tools that enable you to feel safe, strong, and empowered in your relationships. As you get better at setting them, you’ll begin to feel more empowered by the truth that it’s not only your right, but your duty, to make the choices that are best for you. Today, dare to set boundaries and to have the courage to love yourself, even when if you risk disappointing others.

Just for today, I set healthy boundaries. I deserve healthy boundaries and my boundaries are respected. I am a master at setting boundaries that save my time, energy, creativity and emotional well being. I maintain healthy boundaries but remain open to the goodness of others. I am safe, divinely guided, protected and loved. All is truly well in my world. And so it is