How many times a day do you use the word “should” in reference to yourself or other people? I know that I use it far too much and I hear it from others just as much. In fact, the word “should” has become a fixture in our everyday dialogue. We use it in conversation with others, as a way of motivating ourselves or keeping ourselves in check, and to express a myriad of other feelings, such as frustration, guilt, and regret. And, although we feel like we are making ourselves better in some way by telling ourselves we "should", telling ourselves that we should be doing more or being more doesn't actually help us do more or be more, and it just leaves us feeling like we just aren't enough. Today, become aware of how often you use the world should. Recognize that what you really are saying to yourself when you tell yourself that you "should" be doing something else or being something else, you are actually belittling and regretting who you are and the process of life. Today, when you notice yourself using the word should find words to replace it with other words, such as could, which gives you more of a "choice". Replacing “should” with more helpful dialogue will lead to a kinder relationship with yourself, and better relationships with the people around you too. Today, stop "shoulding" on yourself and others-know that you are here to make mistakes, to learn from those mistakes and to learn to love yourself more-should has no place in that kind of world.

Just for today, I have the strength to remain calm under all circumstances. I recognize that when I make a mistake it is all part of the learning process. I no longer use the word should. I now replace the word should with could, knowing that in every situation I always have a choice. I love and approve of myself no matter what they say, do or think. I am a blessed child of the Universe. I am safe and everything is working out for my highest good. And so it is.